Dogs may not have the same vocabulary that humans use to communicate, but they do have their own rich and elegant language of communication that uses sound, sight, and smell to convey their intentions and emotions. To establish a good relationship with your puppy it is essential for you to develop an understanding of your dog’s particular way of communicating its language.
The expression "reading your dog" is really apt when it comes to fully comprehending your dog’s state of mind so that you are not left to conjecture. If you read your dog correctly by observing its many forms of body language, you will avoid the unintentional harm that can occur in your relationship with your dog, as happens when a dog’s moods or intentions are misinterpreted.
As an example, many first-time puppy owners complain when a puppy runs to its mistress (or master) and greets them excitedly while peeing on the floor. Known as submissive urination, this common behavior in puppies stems from the care their mothers gave them by rolling them over and licking their genitals and anus when the pups relieved themselves.
As the puppies grow and mature, this behavior becomes a reflexive sign of accepting dominance and authority. This is also often seen in the way a young pup greets an older and more dominant dog: the pup will crouch low with a wagging tail between its legs while licking the elder's muzzle and leaving a few drops of urine on the ground. The older dog does not punish the pup, since the pup is exhibiting an expression of submission. The action is graciously received by the older dog as it puts on a dominant composure, standing erect with its tail held high. The older dog “gets” the pups behavior.
In contrast, many dog owners do not “get it,” instead viewing the behavior as a disorder or housebreaking problem. Take, for example, the owner who returns home to his excitable puppy. The young dog greets him at the door, tail low but obviously overjoyed to see his human companion. A puddle appears under the dog and the owner responds by reprimanding the dog with a smack on the nose or backside, rubbing the nose in the soiled spot and giving verbal commands like, “No, bad dog, outside!” The owner does not “get” why the puppy continues this behavior day after day. He misinterpreted his pup’s submissive urination behavior as neurotic or cowardly, believing that the only way to cure the behavior is through fear; i.e., intense scolding and spankings.
This response, in turn, sets the stage for more serious and longer lasting behavioral problems. Punishment is the worst response for this behavior, since as the dog understands it, the owner is sending the message that the dog needs to be more submissive. The dog will respond by urinating more often rather than less.
It is bound to be frustrating if you continue to expect your dog to be able to communicate with you on your level. Rather, it is better for you to understand your dog. You can do this by learning more about the typical and normal ways in which dogs express themselves to each other so that you will know the appropriate ways to behave as the dominant dog, or pack leader -- which is how you want your dog to see you.
And because each dog is slightly different from another, you will also need to observe your own dog’s particular behaviors, body movements and characteristics in order to learn how to read your dog and understand its intentions correctly, from its own individual perspective. Of course, this will engage you in different manner of thoughts.