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15 Sure-Fire Ways to Bond with Your Cat


Signs Your Cat Loves You


Even though your kitty is standoffish sometimes and may even disappear for hours, that doesn’t mean she doesn’t love you. To learn to love like a cat, simply watch what she does and imitate her, understand that she’s a child who never grows up, and appeal to her senses. Here’s how:


Cat Watching


Be on the lookout for these affection-showing moves:


The head bump. It’s her way of saying hello, by using the oil glands in front of her ears to greet you as if you’re a cat and leave her scent on you. She sees you as one of her clan, so bump her right back.


The butt presentation. When your cat backs up to your face and lifts her tail, she’s waiting for you, her mom, to clean her. If you gently blow at her rear end, she’ll think that this is what your cleaning style is and will go on about her business.


Kneading you or “making biscuits.” If you maneuver yourself into the right position, you’ll get a free massage out of this one. This is another sign that Kitty-Face thinks you’re her mom, since she’s trying to get milk out of you. It also means she’s happy.


Licking you. Your cat may think you taste good, but grooming is actually a social practice to establish a common scent among a clan of cats. In other words, she’s claiming you as one of her own. The exfoliation is an extra added bonus.


Gumming you. This is another way Kitty-Face blends her own scent with yours, establishing a common “family scent.” Take advantage of it by feeling all of her teeth to gain her trust for when you actually need to be in her mouth.


Read Cat Tail Wagging, What Different Wags Mean


Appeal to Her Sense


Show her you love her through your touch and your voice.


Sing to her. In your little kitty voice. Whether you have talent or not. She doesn’t care.


Greet her.Tell her “hi” and say her name, even if you just saw her a minute ago. She’s choosing to be near you, which is a big deal to a cat.


Meow back.Imitate her sound exactly, and she’ll think you’re one of her kind.


Carry on a conversation.She meows, you talk. Just make up what she’s asking and answer what you think she wants to know.


Tell her what she wants to hear. Cats seem to know what the word “beautiful” means, especially in reference to them. Hearing it makes them very content.


Give her a neck massage. Kitties are very alert and watchful, holding their head up almost constantly. Relax her with a gentle neck massage to pamper her.


Hold her hand. Stroke her paw, both on top and underneath on her toe pads, and loosely wrap your hand around her paw. This should feel good to both of you.


Read Feline Science, Your Cat's Body Language




Nurturing her inner kitten will strengthen your parent-child bond and provide hours of fun.


Play fetch. Cats like this game almost as much as dogs, especially Bombays. Rather than balls, toss items they can easily fit into their small mouths, like toy mice.


Turn the faucet on. Drinking water is good for your cat, and is even more fun from a running tap. Plus a flowing stream encourages water play.


Indulge their sense of fun. Being brought a palmetto bug may not be much fun for you, but it’s Kitty-Face’s way of showing you what a great huntress she is and that you’re worthy of her prey. And in the world of kitty, that’s a very big compliment.


You’ll probably come up with even more ways of bonding with your cat as you get to know her on a deeper, more intimate level. But one thing’s for sure, you’ll have a very happy kitty — a cat that loves you!


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Article originally appeared on Pet360.com


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  • Ways to bond with cat
    03/18/2015 02:02am

    Have wild cat that was born under house, She got pregnant so I let her move in. Very rewarding experience to say the least. She will be having litter any hour now and I have no clue what I am doing so counting on her a lot. Your list was very helpful in all other way though and explained a lot. Guess I am going to be blowing on a cat butt quite a bit in future. She is the most lovable, caring, helpful smartest pet I have owned. That says a lot since last friend was a Border Collie and she was far from dumb. I miss her a lot and this cat seems to sense that, They did know each other. Anyway Thank You for the list and hope you have many great adventures.

  • baby kittn
    08/23/2016 12:06am

    I want one so bab

  • My cat
    11/14/2016 08:15pm

    I have a male cat who is about 14 years old. I call him my old man cat. I have never in my life known a cat as affectionate as he is. He was abused as a kitten and when I got him he wouldn't let you near him when he was eating. He was denied food and then teased with it as a kitten. It did not take long to gain his trust however. He has never known anything but love in this house. He doesn't like to be away from me for any length of time. He always wants love and attention and he gets it. He is in excellent health for a cat his age but he does suffer from arthritis in his back legs for which I give him joint support supplements which seem to help. My Samuel is a very special kitty. He's always been a member of this family, not just a pet.

  • 01/25/2017 10:03pm

    Hi Glae! God bless you for giving your kitty a wonderful home!

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