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Losing a Pet: Divine Intervention or Sheer Bad Luck?

May 11, 2011 / (8) comments

Last week, you heard about JP’s esophageal foreign body extravaganza. Well, the following morning, I took JP to the clinic with me so I could keep a close eye on him. After work, JP and I decided to take a nap — after all, we were both pretty exhausted and traumatized from the previous evening’s excitement. While napping in bed, Echo, my 7-year-old, male, neutered, black, domesticated-shorthair cat, ran over to "make muffins" on me.
 

Anytime I’m in my bed, Echo runs over to knead me with his front paws. This is likely Echo’s sign of affection to me. After all, this trait stems from kittens kneading their mother’s mammary glands to stimulate milk release from their mother. Personally, I love when Echo does this, and simply roll over and let him massage my worries away.   

About ten minutes later, I heard a blood-curdling cat howl from the living room. I sprinted out of bed to investigate, worried that JP had done something to the cats in his post-anesthesia state. What I found instead was Echo trapped between the TV and the flower pot — dying!

First, a little background about Echo: I met him in 2005 when I was performing routine veterinary exams on a few animals from a local shelter. I instantly diagnosed him with a severe heart defect the minute I picked him up to examine him. Echo’s heart murmur was so loud that it was vibrating through his chest wall, and I could feel it when I scooped him up out of his cage.

We veterinarians grade heart murmurs on a scale of 1-6, and Echo’s was a 6/6, meaning he had the worst of the worst. Echo was born with a rare heart defect, and I was shocked that he had survived a previous anesthesia for declawing and neutering prior to his arrival here at the shelter. The shelter only wanted a veterinarian to adopt him, as they knew Echo would have a shortened lifespan and basically, die a horrible death of congestive heart failure, a saddle thrombus, or severe arrhythmias.

Knowing that he’d have a shortened lifespan, I ended up adopting Echo that day. I wanted to give him the best quality of life — regardless of how short it was — without any medical heroics being performed.

Secretly, I also adopted him for a more morbid, warped reason: I knew Echo was going to die in a few years, and I wanted to be able to mentally prepare myself for it. After all, I had never experienced a pet's death (as an adult), and wanted to make sure I was prepared for the grief associated with pet loss before it was my beloved JP.

So that’s how Echo came into my life. I took him home that day and fondly named him after a geeky veterinary term: echocardiogram. You see, Echo is short for echocardiogram, the technical name for a heart ultrasound (I foresaw a lot of these expensive procedures in his near but short future). Despite my estimate that he’d only live a year or two (which is why veterinarians hate answering, "How long is he gonna live, Doc?"), Echo lived for six long years, until this ill-fated day.

Now, this wasn’t Echo's first syncopal (i.e., fainting) episode. During the previous two years, Echo had a few near-death experiences where his heart rate had dropped too low (what we term "bradycardia"). During these previous episodes, I was able to rescue Echo with a few quick puffs of an asthma inhaler (e.g., albuterol), which helped quickly increase his heart rate and snap him out of his "attack."

Unfortunately with this last episode, Echo had the opposite problem; he was having a heart attack from too rapid of a heart rate. Despite doing CPR (more on this next week) on him for a few minutes, Echo died quickly, despite me wailing, screaming, and crying in the process.

Were the pet gods torturing me? Two major pet emergencies within a 12-hour window.

Words can’t express how deep the loss was … particularly right after the emergency with JP 12 hours earlier. To lose one pet while the other has end-stage cancer was more veterinary emergency than I could personally prepare for … and that’s coming from an emergency veterinary specialist.

A few days later, while sitting on the sofa with JP, I took out Echo’s clay paw. Instead of wallowing in my despair as I had for the previous few days, I realized it was Echo’s angelic way of preparing me for JP. Echo left me before JP, as I had initially "intended." So, no … the pet gods weren’t @%* with me. It was likely my cat’s way of gracefully preparing me for the near inevitable.

What did I learn from this? Not only do cats have nine lives (Yes, I witnessed Echo using five to six of them!), but they have an innate sense of love that even this veterinarian can’t comprehend.

You are missed, Echo…

 

 

Dr. Justine Lee

 

 

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COMMENTS (8)
1
Losing Your Companion
by llarrainne on 05/11/2011 06:50am

In response to Losing your Pet/Divine Intervention....I would just like to say that no matter how long or short(I have never experienced the short)time you have with your companion pet, it is never an easy thing to lose one or have to decide to put one down. I had a cat that I took in, pampered her for 10 years and lost her to Diabetes. I was devestated and still cry-its been 5 years since that day. I recently, about 3 years ago, took in a stray and papmpered her and had to put her down due to cancer about a year ago. Now, I am at the worse point in my life...I hand delievered from a first time agressive dalmation, a litter of 10 pups and kept one..JAKE. After 14 1/2 years of total and unconditional love...Jake has had Epilespsy, and a stroke and now I am losing him and husband will not let me put him down. So, this is my moment of last days or hours and I know that it will be the hardest thing to get through but believe when when I say....I do believe in the poem "The Rainbow Bridge" and if anyone doesnt know what I am talking about...I am sure that PET Md will run it or your vet might have a copy. Get one, it is such a comfort after you have had to let go of your pet!
Thanks for listening.
Laraine Moore in NC.

2
Echo
by TheOldBroad on 05/11/2011 07:23am

Oh, Dr. Lee, I'm so so so sorry about Echo. As hard as it is to lose a critter, it's probably doubly hard for an emergency doctor to be helpless when it comes to their own in distress.

Echo was so lucky to have found you and he undoubtedly brought joy into your life. Hopefully the Echo-sized hole in your heart will eventually be filled with happy memories.

3
Sad
by Briarcliff Animal Clinic on 05/11/2011 10:17am

No matter how prepared we are, it is still heart-breaking to lose a loved pet. I am sorry for your loss.

by Briarcliff Animal Clinic on 05/11/2011 10:17am

That should say, no matter how prepared we *think* we are....

4
loss
by jennie on 05/11/2011 11:14am

I too had a similar experience with Molly who was adopted along with her brother Rex fromt the SPCA. She too made it through being spayed and that is when our Vet. discovered her severe heart murmur,unfortunately the SPCA did not. She lived a long life of 5 years. We were all heartbroken when she passed, but we wouldn't have traded her for the world. Molly was the most outgoing cat with a few near death experiences herself. Loss is never easy, no matter how you look at it.

I hope you and JP are doing better.

5
Empathy
by Kutya on 05/11/2011 05:19pm

Something changed in my heart 10 years ago when I lost my most precious dog ever -- my heart dog. Now I cry every time I read or hear of someone losing their pet. It's empathy run amok I guess, but I feel your pain Dr. Justine. I warn you though, as loving as Echo's intentions might have been to "prepare" you for JP's eventual departure, it's probably going to do little good. It just always hurts to lose these precious beings who give us so much and ask so little in return. Healing thoughts to you...
Vicki

6
by Dr Justine Lee on 05/19/2011 02:01pm

Thank you all so much for your comments, and I apologize for the delay (was out of the country for 10 days). Really appreciate all the heart-felt love out there!

Dr. Lee

by TheOldBroad on 05/19/2011 08:10pm

How are you and JP doing?

Do you still think you see Echo coming around the corner or expect to hear him galloping to jump onto the bed? It's so hard even when you think you're prepared.

You did the right thing by taking him home, regardless of the reason. He had a much better life than he would have otherwise. It sounds like he was a happy guy and he loved you. Can we really ask for any more than that for our animals?

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… practices small animal medicine and surgery at Houston Levee Animal Hospital in Cordova, Tennessee. He has a special interest in wellness care and is the author of The Wise Pet Owner, which teaches pet owners how to save money on their pet's healthcare. He also wrote the book Your Guide To Understanding Pet Health Insurance, which helps pet owners understand how pet insurance works and guides them through the research necessary to make an informed decision when choosing a pet insurance policy for their pet. Last, but certainly not least, he blogs about pet insurance -- both for petMD and on his own site.

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